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Be prepared… Not just for Scouts!

22 Apr

Think back to all the parents to be you’ve ever known and the months of preparation they undertake for their new arrival. I’ve known a few pregnant women whose home becomes a baby showroom over the course of 9 months. Prams, cots, bouncers, clothes, nappies, wet wipes, toys, more clothes, bottles and all manner of gadgets. Take a picture of the bedroom of an expectant parent and it’s likely to look like a clearance sale at Babies R Us.

What do adoptive parents do to prepare? We who have no idea of how old our child will be, let alone the gender.

We’re planning to adopt a child aged between 0-42months. And within that age they are a few things that will be needed regardless of their age. Wet wipes, bath things, cutlery, toys etc. The bits I’ve been buying can be kept for a long time, nothing that will go out of dates. But slowly I have some tangible prove that sometime soon a small person will be here and in our family.

I’ve also been buying photo albums and all the bits for the introduction books. Taking lots of pictures of our home, family, cats and surrounding area too. And safety equipment. So far I’ve only got safety things for the plugs, but as we get closer to out panel date we will start looking at stair gates and door latches!

Some things for adoptive parents (and their family) not to buy!

A pushchair/pram/buggy.

Even though you may know the age group you are looking to adopt, do not buy a pushchair. If for no other reason than there’s a good chance that your little one’s foster care may have one to give you!

A cot/cotbed.

Same as above really. Also even if the foster caring isn’t providing a cot, it would be a good idea to try and buy something similar to make little one feel more at home.

Clothes and toys.

There are some toys you can buy, things that could be used for a long time. But for most of them, they have a life span. The same with clothes. Most little ones come with enough clothes to be going on with.


So far our nursery has been completely re-decorated but the only furniture we’ve put in there is a wardrobes and small chest of drawers. We also have some stacking boxes to keep all the random bits in.

My plan in the next few weeks is to make a series of lists of things we would need for each age group that we can’t buy until we’re matched. Bottles, nappies etc.


What ever their past story, no one can ever say our little one wasn’t wanted….


Feathering the Nest

25 Mar

So much has changed since my last blog, it’s amazing. We finally have our own social worker and we’ll be starting our Home Study in three weeks! At the point she comes over it will be almost exactly a year since we put out enquiry paperwork in the post. A year of waiting and wondering, of trying to prepare but not doing too much and moments of extreme doubt.

So much of the adoption process is out of the potential parents hands it’s been difficult making it seem real. At some point a little person will be joining our family, running around our home, scary the cats and getting sticky fingers everywhere. How do you prepare for that?

I’ve been nesting.

Not in the usual way an expectant mother will as I don’t know enough about our child to buy clothes and toys. Instead it’s been more about DIY, especially the nursery. My wonderful husband and father in law have spent the last few months spending their weekends re-decorating the room. This is another area to issue of not knowing has caused problems. How do you decorating a room for child who could be a boy or girl, and anything up to 3 years old? You certainly can’t make it to gender specific, or use traditional colours for a little baby. We’ve gone for a sea side theme, especially as we live on the coast. Beach huts and little sailing boats. Every time I go shopping I seem to find a little something. It is getting to a point where I’m not sure where it will all go!

I also have an Amazon Wish List. When I’m really feeling the urge to buy things, I go on Amazon and shop to my hearts content, I just to order any of them. I have things like a cot-bed, stair gates and cute baby clothes on there. A majority of it I will never need, but it makes me feel better.

In the last week I’ve been made redundant from my job. It’s not a major concern and I knew it was coming. The main issue is that I’m going to be at home on my own a lot more. I’m envisioning my Amazon wish list becoming alarming large!

Here’s hoping the Home Study is swift and straightforward.


Eyes to the Horizon….